How to Tell if Someone is Lying on the Phone
How to Tell if Someone is Lying on the Phone
Nowadays, people have been accustomed to communicating over the phone, the internet, and other devices. People do not often do casual face-to-face talks. They conveniently use their devices to interact with other people whether it is their work colleague, friends, loved ones, or families.
Because of virtual interaction, people have seemed to experience difficulty in detecting whether a person is lying or not. Techniques such as body movements, facial expressions, or the of voice are not applicable in determining the truthfulness of a person over the phone. However, there are still ways that you can try in order to determine if someone is lying to you.
In this article, we came up with a list of several ways and signs to determine if a person is lying:
1. Time it takes for them to respond
One study has suggested that people to take a longer time to respond to texts or calls may be lying. This is obviously because they need more time to think through and figure out what to say.
This is also obvious when after a series of fast exchange of texts, a person suddenly takes a while to reply. When using messenger or imessages on iphones, the “….” can be seen which obviously means the person is still constructing his or her message.
2. Content of the message
When a reply is too complicated to understand, then there is a chance that the person could be lying. If you have asked a simple question and did not receive a simple answer, then the tendency is that the person tries to justify or change the topic or does not respond in a direct manner which is an indication that the person is not upfront or holding back.
If the response you received is not convincing enough, then probably the person is not telling the truth. Some people also who send long descriptive texts can be lying especially if the person does not normally do such. If a person also replies with very detailed texts from a simple question, then there is a great chance that a story did not take place.
3. Changing the subject
A person could also be lying if he tries to change the subject of the conversation. It is obvious that when a person does not tell the truth or not comfortable with the topic, he usually avoids it and change the subject so that he may not be able to deal with such.
For example, if a person gives a very simple answer and suddenly asks a very complicated question, then that person is obviously trying to change the course of conversation.
4. Leaving right away
A person could also be lying if he suddenly leaves right after giving an answer. There is a chance that a person, especially those who are not accustomed to lying, tries to leave and avoid the conversation.
Some people will find reasons just to leave a conversation if he is not comfortable with it. People can become suspicious when he leaves without explanation.
5. Sweet talks
A person becomes sweet and gentle after he has told a lie. This is true, especially with romantic relationships. People who have told lies makes up for it by saying sweet words to his partner or buying sweet gifts in order to cover up for the lies he made.
6. Gut feel
There is nothing more accurate than a gut feeling. Because it is very difficult to detect if someone is lying on the phone, some people resort to instinct or gut. People who cannot find proof in getting the truth usually use their heart and gut to decide. People sometimes use their senses to detect between lies and truth. And unbelievably, most gut feels are proven accurate.
Here are some more specific ways to extract the truth or lie from a person:
7. Words and phrases
People who lie usually use the words “to be honest, I don’t want to give you the wrong idea”. It is like saying “I am going to lie to you but you will not know this”.It is their defense mechanism to start off with this kind of words and phrases to cover up the lie they are about to divulge.
8. The person is not himself
One way to tell if someone is lying if he is not being himself. A change in behavior can be a sign that a person is lying. If a person changes his ways of texting, the way he constructs his words, or even displaying errors in messaging, then there is a chance that he could be lying.
A person may feel this change in behavior especially when he has already established a baseline that could be differentiated.
9. Tense hopping
Tense hopping happens when a person inconsistently or interchangeably uses past and present tense in conversing. This inconsistency is a sign of making up stories. This could mean that he is lying because his story is not well crafted and convincing enough.
If a person is telling the truth, he should know by all means all that details on a particular event or topic of conversation they are having.
10. Many insignificant details
If a person is texting you with so many insignificant things, then the person could be lying. This is a technique liars do when they want to cover up things or they intend to eventually change the subject as the conversation go along.
11. The person does not use personal pronouns
A person could also be lying if he avoids personal pronouns during a conversation. Liars do this because they want to avoid accountability. They do not use personal pronouns to save themselves from guilt and blame. A person telling the truth could own up to his words while someone who tells lies projects the conversation into a third party.
Determining whether a person is lying on the phone or not is not an easy task. Virtual communication has made it hard to see if someone is lying. If you want to do so, people have to be attentive to detail in order to check someone’s credibility. Using the above-mentioned tips can help you figure out if they do lie or not.
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